Recently my friend’s sister died. She was a beautiful and sweet girl who is gone far too early. Today we had a candlelight vigil for her, and several things stood out to me.
1. Sometimes life is just sad, but you have to make the best of the sad times anyway. When speaking with a friend who also knew her, my friend said that they didn’t like sad events because they were sad and they didn’t like being sad. I was shocked because it seemed like my friend thought they could avoid being sad simply by ignoring sad situations and events. Unfortunately I’ve been exposed to several sad events throughout my life, but I’ve learned a lot from those experiences. I’ve learned that you have to face the sadness and face it in you own way. In my family we use humor. We always say if you don’t laugh, you’ll cry.
2. Funerals aren’t for the dead they’re for the living. My mom and I had been discussing if we would attend the funeral mass and the visitation. I was hesitant, but my mom insisted saying “funerals aren’t for the dead they’re for the living.” Even if you didn’t know someone super well you should still attend the funeral. It not only shows your respect for that person, but also supports members of their family during an extremely difficult time.
3. You never know what someone is going through. People can sometimes put on really good masks. They can hide their problems even from the people closest to them. Someone may look strong, but looks can be deceiving. Please be careful about what you say to other people!
And finally if you are depressed or contemplating suicide and need someone to talk to my ask is always open! No matter what your life is valuable and people care about you!